Going beyond the hurt

May 1, 2017 - 12:00am -- Living City

Going beyond the hurt​
My “enemy” was in class with me again

I’m 23, and I have a bachelor’s and master’s degree in international relations, both from the same university.

During my bachelor’s studies, I participated in a project. Toward the end, a classmate began to spread bad rumors about me when I wasn’t present. When I found out, and he realized I knew what he was doing, he stopped talking to me.

When I started my master’s, I discovered that he would be in the same class as me. So I knew that I needed to do something to “love this enemy.”

I started to try to go beyond the hurt and be nice to him, helping him with classes, or answering his questions and doubts about assignments we needed to do.

Eventually, after almost two years studying together, he sent me a message saying: “I’m sorry about all the bad things that I said about you. I was wrong, and I want to say sorry. Will you accept my apology?”

I was quite touched, and I answered, “That’s okay, I forgive you … we can start over.” It made me happy to see that love and forgiveness always pays off!

Catarina Bezerra, João Pessoa, Brazil